I made a comment my husband the other day, about what a long week it had been, and his reply was, “But, isn’t it only Tuesday?”

It…was only Tuesday. I considered writing this long diatribe about the injustices and the people who wield them, but changed my mind.

The Golden Rule comes to mind.

This rule was impressed upon me since I was a kid. I think though, maybe it’s the number one broken rule in the book. People don’t treat one another as they would want to be treated. Some don’t even try. The best among us try, sometimes fail, and many times succeed. That’s the “aim for excellence, not perfection” crowd. I’d like to say I’m a firm member of that group, but sometimes I’m not! I’m prone to jumping to conclusions, I finish peoples’ thoughts and sentences without thinking that I may be dead wrong. I have assumed to know their intent and decision making logic, and been dead wrong.

Based on recent events in our lives, I guess I would ask a few things, as we attempt to communicate with one another.

1. Think about the Golden Rule when you decide to communicate. (How would “I” feel if this person said/did this to me?)
2. Ask the questions first, rather than assume.
3. Ask THE RIGHT PEOPLE! (Calling someone else, and asking, “WHAT WERE THEY THINKING?!” won’t evoke an accurate answer. The only person who can determine what they were thinking is that person!
4. Don’t assume the worst. Whatever “it” was, may have been an innocent action, free from malice or dastardly intent. (This is a hard one!)

My honey and I…we’re good folk. We’re flawed, as most of us are, but we try to act out of friendship, loyalty and good faith. We’ve learned in the past few years that even though we’re willing to lay ourselves out there, to take a whipping on someone else’s behalf, doesn’t mean the favor will be returned. This has been a hard lesson to absorb. People are fickle. The thing they’re fighting for today, they’ll be fighting against tomorrow. The thing they think will end the world today, is going to rejuvenate the world tomorrow. The conversation that seemed harmless to you, was a knife in the heart to the other person.

The key, the real take home here is to just….Let.It.Go. If you can’t control the situation, if you know you can’t make a difference in someone’s thinking, go find something to do where you can make a difference. I think this is part of the secret of life.

Let it go. Move on, move forward. Don’t hold a grudge, but maybe keep your Circle of Trust a little tighter about your heart.

My favorite quote of the day:

To belittle, you have to be little.

Kahlil Gibran

Don’t be little. Don’t be big mouthed, big’oted, or bigly, but be another big. Big hearted, big in spirit, big in all the good things.

~D.

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